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The problem I have with that is that a parent isn't supposed to be part of the problem,t hey're supposed to be the first step in a solution.

BIG sigh.
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• stephan "

Oh I hear ya on that one!  The damage my stepson's mother did to them is profound and permanent and I really weep for them sometimes.  But. . .  there's always a but. .   when you become an adult, you have to take responsibility for all your actions, not just blame your parent's screwed up parenting -- no matter how much they're really at fault.  What we tried to do with the boys is to teach them that they couldn't change the bad things in their life, but they could choose how to deal with them. Not sure how much it worked, since they've done nothing but screw me over royally since their dad died But at least we tried.

I get so angry at how children are treated sometimes.  And then you have people in government talking about mandatory sentences and punitive measures that just crush people.  Punishment is completely inneffective for anyone who has never learned the appropriate behavior.  It's a vicious cycle.

Kathy